October 15, 2009

Being myself

In a sheer urge to take a step closer to being myself, I decided to come out publicly. Well, quite a few of close friends already knew about it. I'm a bisexual.

For me, it's just another part of me. Though I've stopped practising it long back and I'm not going to have any same-sex relationship any more, it's still an integral part of me, I know. I'm neither proud, nor ashamed or indifferent about it. It's just that I happen to be so :P

It's NOT a matter of choice - not for me at least. Period.


  1. HM,

    Its a brave decision you took. I know its quite difficult to come out of the closet in a society like ours... with the tendency to stereotype everything and everybody who refuses to walk on the "straight" line(pun intended :-) ).

    I honestly feel that other people should follow your example. Its nothing that u did wrong, sometime when u were wrong, nor is it something to be ashamed of. God created u that way, and Man ought to accept you the same way too.

    AttaBoy !!!

  2. mwah.. u rock...not many people have the guts to speak the truth... am so proud of u :)

  3. Proud to have a friend who stands for what he is rather than what others think.


  4. Dear Haresh,
    Its really good that u r so much honest and open to share ur nature's characteristics but I would say that u r no more like that as far as I know u , its better if u 4get that part of urs and dont consider it as ur "Introduction" u hv a lot more to share in u ....
    U r simply the best and the most pure person I hv ever met..

    With love,

  5. @Wafa and @Sandeep:

    Thank you, yaar!


    Yes. I've changed quite a bit over time. And, it (sexuality) is just another part of me, just like everyone of us have sexuality as a part of our overall self.

  6. I applaud your courage and honesty!

  7. :) Well... I might not have a right to say anything... still.. Be proud of whatever you are... its better to be nobody you than to be somebody that's not you :)

  8. Okay hai, no need to shout and tell the world that you are bisexual :O

    Take it lightly !

  9. it's brave to say truth n i m proud to have a brave friend thats ever in my company...but in my beliefe thats it's unnatural bcoz according to me god never makes a person who have thats type of sexual attraction..it becomes when u hungry for the sex and it becomes so powerful n one can not get partner, person finds aomething thats satisfy his or her sexual desire...and later on this becomes habit and feelings of sex also rise in presence of his her...think about it...u be noraml

  10. ㅎㄱㄷㅁㅅ ㅠㅣㅐㅎ (Great blog) those characters came when I typed with korean script ^__^

    keep it going !!

  11. hey u rock! m proud to hv a frnd lik u
    wish u luck 4 future

  12. kuvar,
    its not your fault or anybodys fault its naturs gift and finale you comeout ,you have brave heart and i must say two sentance live life by king size

  13. Good on you for coming out mate! I know you said you are not proud of it but you should be. It's difficult to come out in Indian society...so kudos to you!

  14. @Fangs,

    Thanks :-)


    Yes, true!


    I don't want to shout around :P


    I humbly disagree with you on most of the views you expressed :-)


    Thanks :-)


    Thanks a lot again and again. Your comments motivate me :-)


    Yes, in a way, it's a gift. Thanks :-)

    @Psych Babbler,

    I am not proud of or ashamed to be a bisexual. But, yes, it feels better now and I feel that I am closer to myself :-)

  15. Haresh ... kudus for the courageous decision to come out. It is not easy to do in India. The fact that you are a human being is all that matters to me.

  16. Thanks Hari!

    Yes, it wasn't easy.

  17. Wow! I admire your guts! I feel that I'm one too. Taking it one step further, I would like to say that I think men & women are innately bisexual, it is society that makes up believe tat we are only supposed to get attracted to the opposite sex.

  18. WTG! you rock.

    @ Shabirr
    I disagree with you.

  19. @Magali,

    Thanks! May be you need to explore yourself a little too :-)

    And yes, almost everyone is bisexual, only the degree of orientation varies. Or, at least that's what Prof Alfred Kinsey and his research suggests. Read the following:

    Males do not represent two discrete populations, heterosexual and homosexual. The world is not to be divided into sheep and goats. It is a fundamental of taxonomy that nature rarely deals with discrete categories... The living world is a continuum in each and every one of its aspects.

    While emphasizing the continuity of the gradations between exclusively heterosexual and exclusively homosexual histories, it has seemed desirable to develop some sort of classification which could be based on the relatidve amounts of heterosexual and homosexual experience or response in each history... An individual may be assigned a position on this scale, for each period in his life.... A seven-point scale comes nearer to showing the many gradations that actually exist." (Kinsey, et al. (1948). pp. 639, 656)

    Source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale

  20. @Moulee,

    Thanks a lot! :D

  21. May be you're just plainly confused about your sexuality? Friendship an other forms of affection , craziness, confused sexuality at a certain vulnerable age, should not be taken seriously. Check it out with a doctor! Iam a girl, and I don't like girls mostly, well, definitely not for a relationship!

  22. @CT,

    Well, I was confused during a few years after puberty. I'm not confused anymore. I know that I'm a bi. Even today, I feel the urge for same-sex physical relationship. It's just that I've learnt to control it now. I don't get emotionally attached to a guy much, though.

  23. Be whatever you are, and be proud of it! Cheers on being so brave!

  24. @Sourav,

    Thanks! Cheers :D

  25. Dude, be proud of whatever, and whosoever you are. It takes courage, and determination to actually accept the fact in a society with so many hypocrites!


  26. @Arjit,

    True :-) It wasn't extremely easy initially. But, now, well, I don't care at all if someone seems to mind my sexuality :D ;-)

  27. Coming out is never easy. But it's good you found the courage to do it. :)

  28. Haresh as I said earlier, I am proud of ur confidence. Not everyone has the guts to accept it and did that. Bravo! Happy to be your friend. Nice post, crisp and to the point. Take care :)

  29. @RenKiss,

    It wasn't easy at all at that time. Thanks for commenting.


    I wish more people come out. Thanks for the kind words :-)